Best not!

Describe a family member.

Kidding…sort of. I come from a wildly screwed up family. The past is somewhere I don’t go. I do remember a lot of great things about my family, but they’re inextricably linked with the rest.

My brother and I have rebuilt our relationship and discovered we’re nothing like our ‘reputations’. He made the initial reconnection and I’m profoundly grateful that he did. However, he would be horrified to be described in public and even though he wouldn’t know I wouldn’t do that to him. Suffice it to say that I love him and admire him tremendously.

He’s bought with him an amazing family including two great nephews. His wife is just beautiful, his sons are different but equally amazing, the children’s mum is truly lovely.

However…I have one inexplicable person in my life.

Kim

I have two other very close friends but we either see each other or connect regularly. Katrina is more my sister than anything and allows me room to be myself. A pearl beyond price. She has actually been there and stood by me when I needed help, as has her hubby.

Then there’s Luke. We met as the second oldest (me) and youngest of a newly formed group. The moment we met his friend and mentor turned to me and said “you’ll always help an eye on him won’t you?” I said yes without thinking and then wondered what she meant later. That yes was automatic. As if it already was a thing. In truth we respect each other’s imperfections as well as the good stuff, and keep an eye on each other.

As you can see I’m truly blessed.

Then there’s Kim.

Inexplicable

I think it’s fair to say that we’re both baffled by, and truly accepting of, our friendship.

We met on 1st June 1970, the day before my 13th birthday. I’d transferred from an awful school where I’d been badly bullied, and was functionally broken. Not just by that though.

I stupidly thought if I went to a school where my old primary school friends were I’d be safe. But because I’d come from a grammar school and this was a secondary school I heard ‘how are the mighty fallen’ for the first time. Of course that spread like wildfire.

I honestly didn’t care what type of school it was, I was looking for friends. I found Kim. Or she found me.

I was standing alone at the first break, wondering what the heck I’d done and how to cope. She came straight over to me. That’s so typical of her. We’ve been friends from that moment and still are; 53 years later and counting.

We live a long way apart. Don’t need to see each other. Don’t need to phone each other. Yet have absolute faith in the relationship. I can feel her now as I speak. I can feel her all the time.

We can have our backs to each other and know what the other is thinking. Exactly what they’re thinking. We are told that we communicate in unfinished sentences but if you listen carefully it makes sense. We know exactly how the other will react to anything and when to get them out of a room to save lives.

It just ‘is’ and always will be. Always.

Soul groups

I often say that the unexpected way I’ve lived my life has proven itself to me numerous times. To me, she is the proof of soul groups.

The idea is that in Spirit we are part of a wider family, some come here and connect up, some stay there and watch over us and help. The connection between Kim and I is no different to Amos – my Guide – and I. Except he has the wisdom of the universe at his disposal as well as knowing what I’ve said I need at any one time.

I can feel Amos all the time as well. The feelings are identical except he can communicate over vast distances and obviously the spiritual vibe is out of this world. Literally and figuratively.

You’ve probably encountered this in your life. A true best friend forever. If you’re married to your soul mate and they drive you nuts, you won’t leave them so don’t even bother to fume, roll your eyes and smile. Providing there is no violence or abuse mental or physical.

I even connected with a celebrity in the same way once, strangers in the audience asked me if we were friends as we seemed so connected. I was stunned.

However, it’s not fair to bring that person into this. It’s just a good example of how weird this can be. Weird and wonderful.

Butt saving disclaimer

Yes Kim if you read this you also are indeed very wise, super incredible, and I can still catch a ball thanks to you, so you would have been a great teacher, seriously. 🤣

No Katrina and Luke I would never think of you as anything but magical and sparkly, and you are both completely inexplicable. I would also never call you normal!

Tony, if you read this, this is a blog not a book so I don’t have time to describe the beautiful, inexplicable, contrary, complexity that I married. 💖

Hopefully I’ve adequately dodged several outpourings of outrage now.

Fingers crossed

Deb xx

P.S. Keith, I’d say you’re normal by comparison, but we both know that’s not true you big northern chocolate loving softie.