We all speak a language. Some speak more than one language. Some people say that they understand languages that they don’t speak. I saw all this in a survey, which bought an interesting question to mind.
What language do you understand?
As we all know, speaking the same language doesn’t alway lead to understanding. this is because we’re more often forming a reply than truly listening to what’s being said.
Add to that living in the ‘I’, as in ‘what do I think about this?’ means we’re more listening to see if we agree or disagree, than hearing what another person is saying.
All of which leads to many misunderstandings amongst people raised to speak the same tongue. Perhaps misunderstanding is everyone’s second language?
I hear you not I heard you
I heard you indicates that the words you’ve spoken have entered through my ears and transmitted themselves to my brain. I hear you indicates that I’ve tried to listen to who you are and what those words mean to you, as the person you are. Two totally different techniques.
Me and not me
It’s so important to understand in your heart that there is you and not you, and no one else is you.
As such their experience of a highly similar life may be entirely dissimilar. My hubby and I both have two parents, and there the similarity ends. For a start his are alive, but that technicality aside, his childhood was nothing at all like mine so his family connection is also different. Not worse or better, but we both came out of our childhoods with utterly different takes on the meaning of the word family.
If you always bear me and not me in mind, it does makes communication easier. It also stops you having to take the blame for things just because someone else has decided it’s your fault. But that’s a whole other issue.
To perfect ‘hearing’
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 