For a Daughter’s mum and for Herself

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She was me

That’s how it was

I am her

And that’s how it is

Mother and daughter

Daughter and mother

Friends first and foremost

Never to be separated

When she left I left

But I stayed

And I know that she would want me

To be happy in this life

“No matter” she would say

“No matter what”

She too lost people

But she never lost herself

As I will never lose me

In her memory or in her eyes

Or my own

I will be the daughter she knew

I will be the happiness she craved

I will be the mother she admired

And the woman she wanted me to be

I will always make her proud

Just by getting up in the morning

And living my day

By smiling

By singing in the shower

By giggling at the absurdities of life

By loving and giving

And receiving

Because she was special and deserving

And I am her

By shining like a star

As she did

I honour her

An in so doing

I honour me

As she would wish

Deb Hawken

October 2016


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

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