A Great Saying?

I love a positive saying that brings light into the darkness. One that makes us realise that what happened in the past can plunge us into the dark, or be used as energy to catapult us into the light.

There’s a funny thing about sayings though, you can love them, collect them, build positivity boards using them, you can believe in them. However, if you don’t use them, embody them, and act on them, they’re just a pretty set of words, maybe with a lovely flower in the background.

Inspir-actional or moti-vactional?

When I speak I tend to refer to myself as one of the above, to remind the audience (and myself), that we need to act on inspiration and be motivated to do something by motivation. Knowing lots of clever stuff, being able to quote the wisest beings that ever walked on this planet, means absolute nothing if you don’t take the words into your heart and make them who you are and what you do.

The heart rules

The heart has brain cells, in fact there are more brain cells in the heart than their are in your brain itself. You can read more about this if you follow either Gregg Braden or Joe Dispenza, or the Institute of Heartmath (correct spelling).

I’ve said before on these blogs that the heart knows best. To me it’s the seat of soul and we need to be in contact with our true selves, which means to be living our individual truth, not behaving like a ping-pong ball in a world of too many bats.

We all know that, but let’s get logical here. How often have you known that something is wrong for you and done it anyway, only to pay the price very soon after? I walked down an aisle doing exactly that and it nearly cost me my sanity. In my case it was because I didn’t even consider the word happiness as being important to me, but I did consider the happiness of others. Plus I was too broken at the time to deal with the fall-out, even though my father was prepared to take the brunt for me.

Proscribed life path?

Even if you believe that your destiny is already mapped out for you, it would be worth remembering that you will still get everywhere you’re supposed to be without being unhappy. I wasn’t mean to be married to my first husband, and I didn’t leave him until 6 weeks before I met my current husband of nearly 31 years. So I could have had more boyfriends, holidays, gone out with the girls, had a brilliant career, and still met Tony exactly when I did. If you look back at your life you will probably see that the mistakes you made haven’t prevent any of the good things from happening.

The moral of the story?

Two things really:

  • You can walk this path in uncomfortable shoes.
  • Or you can walk this path in comfort.

Choose comfort, after all you have to walk every single mile of your life in your own shoes.

To your happiness and no blisters

Deb xx


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

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