Attitude is everything is one of those clichés which is in fact a simple statement of fact. Everything you think about creates the attitude with which you approach and live your life.
At the moment we’re in a particularly turbulent time, perhaps the most unsettled time in my entire life – of over 63 years. To complicate this we have social media. A million different opinions, a billion gurus, and thousands of people who think they’re attitude is right because they’ve chosen the evidence that supports it. That’s true of the vast majority of humans of course, but what keeps things balanced is a flexible approach and the willingness to listen, and that’s often lacking.
Engage With Care
If you suffer with anxiety it will come as no surprise to you that I’m recommending that you’re highly discerning as to to the conversations you engage in, and the people you engage with. If your wall drives you crazy and adds to your stress, have no embarrassment in reducing your connections to people that you can deal with.
There is an attitude that to be ‘someone’ you need loads and loads of Facebook friends or Twitter/Instagram followers. Unless you’re famous you don’t. You need to be enjoying your life and controlling your social media threads will help enourmously.
Does it matter what they think?
Does it matter what you think? I’m an arch communicator, handy for a writer and public speaker, but by the same token it’s not been the greatest thing when it comes to social media. I always have an opinion, which has turned out to be a very bad idea a number of times, and I try to be a voice of reason, which is generally well received but not always.
One thing I have noted and had to accept though, is that thinking about life, having an opinion, and then defending it, is emotionally and mentally exhausting. I’ve tried to dial back considerably on the opinions I share, and come from more of a perspective of world peace and how on earth do we find ways and reasons to like and respect each other.#
If you’re suffering from anxiety one of the things you may need to do is to lessen your levels of communication. This does not mean not talking to people when you’re down and struggling, it does mean not engaging with people who are angry and convinced they’re absolutely right, when your energy is low and you’re struggling to cope.
Would they subtitle the X-Files differently now?
If you were a fan of the X-Files you will know that the subtitle was “The truth is out there”. I’m not so sure it is now. So many billions of people are engaged in this truth, so many more are playing fast and loose with the truth, interfering wherever they can and trying to destabilise something or other for some reason or another, even more have become researchers without research training. So they’ve looked at information, which they share, but you never see the counter-arguments, pointers to those ‘facts’, and why they reached their conclusion. There’s a real skill to ensuring that your conclusion is based on facts.
The only truth you need to be engaging in at the moment is your recovery. Wasting time on social media arguing opinions is unlikely to help you. Plus, those opinions can be rather unkind, and many people have said recently that they’re becoming scared to have an opinion. You can’t afford to use your energy in this way.
Happy Thoughts = Happy Life
Amongst other things I’m a Law of Attraction Practitioner, you may call it cosmic ordering, and actually my preferred term is manifesting – because it reminds me to get off my butt and be proactive about my life. Basically they all mean the same thing. Crystalise your thoughts about the life you really want, keep visualising it in great detail, then get out there and live and see what comes your way. Not limiting yourself to your current dreams, always ‘this or better’.
The real beauty of Manifesting though is that it requires you to keep your mind in a good place, focused on what you do want not what you don’t. That is an incredibly powerful way to think.
Just try for a week to say ‘stop’ to any negative thoughts, and redirect your mind to a dream life. Visualise the house, the job, your appearance, your leisure time, the holidays, visualise it in great detail. Take 10 minutes every day to do this, and then turn your mind back to it if it decides to wander into the past or focus on a current irritation. See how you feel? If you manage to do it you should feel things starting to change, maybe a bit of a spring in your step.
Just try…and also try to think carefully about where and when you engage, what on, and with whom.#
Your mind will thank you…no…it will absolutely adore and worship you!
To your happiness
Deb xx
Deb Hawken 