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And sometimes my own inner voice!
Positivity and negativity is actually dangerous thinking. Odd I know but it is.
People can get so caught up in those two polarities when they’re desperately trying to feel better that their negativity becomes terrifying. Those who really understand the human mind don’t even mention it.
At difficult times your mind will struggle. You wouldn’t blame a broken leg for struggling to climb stairs, or a broken arm for being unable to lift something, so when your mind takes a body blow – to happily mix metaphors – don’t blame it for reacting.
If you buy into it, it will get worse. Allow the mind to react and clear that energy.
Don’t live poison
Holding on to anger and bitterness is like taking poison and waiting for someone else to die
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Just a saying I heard once and don’t know the origin.
Holding onto the past is similar. However, the problem with the past is that we don’t recall the programming, it’s been overwritten many times, and without realising it we keep living it.
We don’t know we’re doing it because it’s lost in the mists of time, obscured by more stuff that we have brain capacity to recall, and part of a long term muddle.
We’re also programmed by humans who were programmed by humans who were programmed by humans, and if that’s not a recipe for chaos what is?
The untrained leading the unaware into the unknown. Teaching children who are entirely unique the best you’ve got, with often the most loving intentions, but not always, while the rest of the world disagrees and tries to confuse them.
Okay I’m playing with words a bit here, but you get the meaning. Too many cooks spoil the broth.
I’m all about the clichés today and entirely unapologetic. I feel like being random and inexplicable. 🤣
The path to sanity
At some point many adults have to deal with all this havoc. They have to face the fact that they’re a mess and try to undo it. But how?
You don’t remember the causes. You’re not sure why you’re triggered by certain things. You try not thinking about it, thinking about it, thinking about not thinking about it and trying to be sure that you should or shouldn’t be thinking about it.
Your life has gone wrong, you start blaming yourself. Forgetting that your younger self was doing the best they could as the person they were at the time.
Even though the realisation of mistakes is uncomfortable to say the least, thank your younger self for getting you to the point that you’ve seen this. They’re the only person that did.
Then you start buying books, which is great unless you start getting overwhelmed by the information, watch for that. Information overload is a lot to handle. It can make you feel that you should be doing so much better, whereas you just need to move at your own pace.
Social media has a lot of information, in fact it’s a huge ocean of it, and wildly too much.
The odd thing about positivity and this Information age is that it can be too much in itself. It can become negative.
Humorous interlude
Some highly dramatic examples:
- You tell your doctor you have a glass of fresh orange every morning for your vitamin C and stuff, they’re delighted and the nod of approval is wonderful. You walk out all aglow with your wisdom and cleverness. Tell your dentist the safe thing and they scream and have a nervous breakdown. “Don’t you realise that stuff is full of sugar, your enamel will rot, your gums will recede to get away from the poison, and your teeth will fall out!!!!
- You eat fresh fruit and vegetables! Week done you except they’re sprayed with forever chemicals which are another description of poison and therefore trashy bad for you. You could try organic but don’t forget the acid rain on the soil! So do eat fresh fruit and veg and pray you’ll survive the experience.
- Take lots of vitamins and supplements because our diet nowadays isn’t that good and we’re missing all kinds of critical body needed things that we didn’t know existed. Sometimes reading a multi-vitamin and mineral label takes two hours by the time you’ve looked it all up and tried to work out if you need it all. Studying you fingernails, toenails, hair, skin, eyebrows, lining for clues. That’s without all the and ons health food shops offer! The influencers, the vibrancy on social media…
It can be very easy to become obsessed by well being to the point it’s undermining your wellbeing.
And breath. There are are better ways and the only critical thing to remember is that what feels absolutely right to you is the only thing that matters, or will work.
Suggestions
- Step one, trust yourself. I don’t care whether you weren’t raised to feel valuable, sensible, respected, it’s not important. Go into your feelings and trust them.
- Get the mind out of it, learn to feel. Tune into the heart and listen. The heart knows. There’s another so called cliché that is actually a fundamental truth. Modern life relies on the mind too much. It’s a vital part of the equation that is you, and needs to be used correctly. I’ll explain in a moment.
- If you had a spectacularly bad past emotionally, as I did, find a way to let it go. Stop thinking about it. Stop talking about it. We only reminder 25% of the past accurately, the rest is made up of logical links from one memory to the other. Think on that, 75% of what you believe happened is missing! Not necessarily wrong, just missing. Why let the unknown control you?
- The people who let you down have exactly the same problem, driven by 75% of they know not what. Forgive them. Forgive you. Forgive the past Embrace the generous present moment (my next step of learning on my Joe Dispenza course). **This obviously isn’t a comment on abusers, there is no excuse for that. Don’t let them win though, don’t let them control the present moment. They don’t deserve the acknowledgment.**
- Find an inspirer who makes sense to you. It can be anyone as long as it feels exactly right. I began with a mentor, moved into the spiritual way of thinking, and from there I discovered modern scientists that blew my mind and changed my life. The one I’m most attuned to is Joe Dispenza, and the clue there is that when he speaks, even if he’s not doing a meditation, I calm down. He could recite a shopping list and I would feel better. It’s not hero worship, it’s the resonance of his voice matches my energy. Look out for that feeling. You will know.
- Most importantly – trust yourself to know what is right for you. No matter who another person is they don’t know what you need better than you. Joe doesn’t even know me, but I know his knowledge is right for me. Medical knowledge is brilliant but if you’re not involved, engaged, embracing what feels right, it won’t work as well. Own what you know.
So the mind…
BIG MIND HINT!
The hardest thing to do when you’re stressed is to train the mind to think about what you do want, not what you don’t. Particularly when you can see, hear, and feel, what isn’t as you would wish it to be.
Don’t think about correcting the mind, think about creating an entirely new mind to clear your problems and the way to the future! Try “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to lose your mind and build a new one.” By Joe Dispenza. It will help you to undertake the difference between healing, correcting, and actual change.
Because…
We are not trained to use the mind in the right way, to its fullest capacity. The human body is a miracle. It’s capable of so much healing but it needs the mind to help it. As such your mind must be the main focus of all that is good. It drives your entire life.
If you need pointers check out:
https://www.tut.com/team/mike-dooley/
https://greggbraden.com/about-gregg-braden/
https://www.brucelipton.com/ (Book: The Biology of Belief.)
https://drdavidhamilton.com/ (Book: How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body.)
Six very different inspirers to get you started. Sorry they’re all men ladies 🤣. From there you can follow the threads – your way.
Learn to use your mind for your highest good, and please, I beg you, know that you are worth it and worthy of the very best that life has to offer.
You are.
BIG mind hint!
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Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 