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Here is a waterfall. It hasn’t decided to be a waterfall. The water was there, the drop was there, the water found its way there and then the only option was to flow downwards. Gravity is in charge.

When you want to make changes in your life you should stop and work out why you want to make changes, why you want to change specific things, why it matters, why you’re feeling that way. Then you need to go with the flow to bring in that change.

But what is the flow in life? It’s following your feelings and emotions. You can deal with logic, but logic can be a trickster. You may want to do something that will cost you money and logic will tell you that you can’t afford it. Maybe you can’t, but creativity says there may be another way to create the same thing. You could improve your house rather than sell it.

Attitude is everything and other useful chestnuts

Attitude is everything, and attitude is often decided by the past, considering we only recall 25% of the past accurately it’s rather a risky thing to base decisions upon. Dad told you that you were useless, you’ve been living that idea, you want to do something really different and honestly believe you can. Stop at that point…don’t cycle back to dad. Otherwise the attitude making the decisions is not yours.

This is where feelings and emotions are important, if you feel that you can do something and your instinct tells you that you can, you have to learn to trust that. If you do trust it and take steady steps towards whatever it is you want to do, you will succeed. Maybe not exactly as you wished, or in a different way, but you will take steps forward that can be built on.

If your why is coming from you not someone else, and if you’re not living their why not!

Water flows in one direction

Rivers flow to the sea. They don’t question it, logic it out, worry about it, when did you last see a confused river? They know what they are and what they do and they do that.

If you can be more like a river and flow forward in life your, on your river of life, allowing yourself to be pulled by your own gravity, your own dreams, your own self-beliefs, your own inner calling. If you can silence the worry in your gut, the chatter in your head, and go with the flow giving it a go, you’ve taken the first step towards flowing with your life, not against your life. If you’re mindful and monitor your feels at every step, you can readjust at any point, which gives you a greater chance of success, or do I mean happiness?

I definitely mean happiness.

Success and happiness are two very different things, success may bring money but it may also bring anxiety, stress, loneliness, and so on. If you’re very happy in your success then you’re successful, if not you’re still not successful. Oh…and don’t forget to define what success means for you.

That river of life

Many years ago I was asked to do a reading for a young man from Australia. He’d come over to the UK in the hope of making a success of his musical career but it hadn’t worked out before he had to go home. I can’t recall why but he did. He was so upset that he was going backwards in life.

I honestly didn’t know what to say. What’s the point of smiling and saying it’s all fine to someone who feels the exact opposite? So I asked my guide Amos to help. Here’s what he said that may be useful for you.

There is no going backwards in life. You left Australia to come forward to the UK, now you go forward on the river of your life to Australia. Leaving the UK doesn’t mean you won’t be successful. Just sit in your boat, put your paddles away, let the river of your life take you in the only direction it flows, forward, and watch out for your opportunities. But you have not failed and you are not going backwards, it’s not even possible.

That young man went back to Australia, joined a band, and the last I heard they were doing well. I hope that continued, but if it didn’t I hope he put the paddles marked “worry” and “failure” down, settled back in the boat, and travelled forward on his river looking for the next opportunity for happiness.

Trust your river, you access it through your heart truth, and your gut and emotions will tell you whether you’re listening properly. Use your ears and eyes to gather information, ensuring that what your ears hear your eyes confirm, and vice versa, and be open to everything good! We can’t control the direction, but we can control how we get there…aim for happily.

To your happiness

Deb xx


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

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