Soul Mates

When we talk about a soul mate relationship it’s often associated with romance, the love of your life, but in truth there is more than one kind of soul mate.

This bunny is BellaKim Bunny. She was made by my oldest friend. We met at school on 1st June 1970 and we’ve been friends ever since. We’ve never visited much, rarely phone each other nowadays, and yet she’s a constant in my life.

The power of the relationship is the complete acceptance of who the other person is. I love her unconditionally, there is nothing she needs to do in order to be my friend. BellaKim arrived just because I complimented Kim’s latest project, so she immediately made her for me.

Soul groups

My belief system is that we are all part of soul groups in spirit. Some of us incarnate here, the others stay there and watch over us. Maybe fret over us. My Guide Amos is part of my soul group, we have connected in many lifetimes, and this time he’s my life guide. Your life guide is your BFF (only the F for forever has a totally different meaning in soul terms), they watch over you in this life, sending gentle nudges in the right direction once they’re sure that you’re ready for that information. They can’t affect your free will but they can guide you.

Amos and I also work together, he’s been part of my mediumship and psychic work for many years, as were Eduoard and White Cloud before him. All members of my soul family. All still a part of my life.

The people you meet in this life and get on well with are also part of your soul group. We come over here together to be here for each other. So those instant likes, and friendships that not even ex-husbands who didn’t want your earthly BFF anywhere near them can break, all originate from your soul group.

Romantic soul mates

Your romantic soul mate is also from your soul group, and the connection between the two of you should be instant. I once knew someone who disliked her husband at first sight, and yet said yes to him when he asked her out, then fell head over heels in love with him. Soul mates may be perfect in spirit, but you’ll be meeting someone different over here. However, that difference won’t include violence or a great deal of hurt. A soul mate relationship will be more balanced.

I’m in such a relationship. He originated from New Zealand, there was no way we should have met yet we did, we’re utterly different and yet have found ways to understand each other. We used to argue, every Saturday morning for a while, had completely different approaches to our careers, and my husband came from a multiple broken home, so family in the classic sense wasn’t something he’d really experienced. I came from a strong family at the time, but that turned out to be an illusion, however, when we met I couldn’t understand how the relationship came second.

However, over the last 30 years we’ve learned to rub along together. We’ve even reached a phase we never wanted to reach, the one where instead of adventure you’re at your happiest cuddled up indoors with your cats, and a good film on tv or book in your hand. We thought that was the most boring thing you could ever become, now we know it’s a magical place to be.

How we made it at times I do not know but, ever the complete romantic, the best way I can phrase it is – your soul mate is the bugger you can’t leave. Somehow you always want to make it through, and make things right. As I said though, this doesn’t include putting up with any form of violence or hurtful talk or behaviour. With a soul mate there will always be that something that makes the relationship worth more effort.

All very equal

Your soul mates will impact you in the same way when you meet them, the connection will be instant and it will never break. Kim is my longest standing soul mate in this life, but I have other wonderful friends who have impacted me in the same way, and some family members that are always prepared to work things out because the relationships are work it, people I couldn’t be without. I also have Tony.

How would I choose between him and Kim? That’s the question. I guess it would be one of two things, the one with the most chocolate, or the one who makes me a bunny just because I like it. So far he’s ahead on the chocolate and she’s ahead on the bunny.

The teachings of Kim

It was Kim that made me think about other relationships in my life. I met Tony at an inconvenient time, I was still living with my ex and we had only just started telling people that we were getting divorced. As you may imagine, that timing didn’t look good and we suffered accordingly.

At the time I was also scared that I’d fallen for him too soon, maybe as a reaction to everything that was going on. It was Kim who put my mind at rest. Firstly, he had her immediate seal of approval and I trust her gut instinct. Secondly, she pointed out that if she and I could connect in one sentence at school and be friends for decades, it was certainly possible to do the same with a man. It was that thinking that made me ask Amos about soul mates, and soul groups.

Look for those connections in life, trust them, and give them the importance they deserve. You’ll never regret it, and maybe when you’re 65 you’ll find yourself with a rather lovely bunny made in two of your favourite spiritual colours!

To your happiness and a friend who can knit!

Deb xx


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

5 thoughts on “Soul Mates

  1. I understand completely. My Kitsi is my soulmate. A wonderful, spiritual Tibetan Spaniel. I have loved every pup I’ve ever had the privilege to come into my life. We are so in tune that I totally understand what he needs and he seems to know what I’m thinking. My wonderful Bill, well, I feel he deserved someone better than me. I suffer from Misophonia, my wonderful Bill knew my triggers and deliberately avoided them. I’ve been blessed. 🙏🏻❤️


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