Totalitarian State of Mind

Photo by Brett Sayles on

When you work hard to be a spiritual thinker, accepting the rights of others to exist in their own way, respecting the free will clause as set down by your God, it’s very hard to see what kind of a race humanity has become.

It would be ridiculous to say that there weren’t millions, if not billions of shining lights out there, feeling precisely as I do, but sadly there are too many of the opposite.

For those not into history…

A totalitarian state is where there is no personal autonomy, you do as you’re told by your leader or face serious consequences. It seems to me that our thinking, particularly in the west, has polarised in a similar way.

If you’re in the UK you will be aware that we sadly had a lady go missing 3 weeks ago, whose body has been discovered. This has been a dreadful example of the kind of attitude that we don’t want in this world. People who weren’t there, don’t know a thing, making up their minds about family members. Criticising the police. Then, of all things, turning up to stomp all over the scene, dig holes to find a body, and generally get in the way of the police trying to do their jobs.

The worst thing of all though is the abuse the family have been subjected to, which includes two very young children who needed to be protected as much as possible. It’s made everything one thousand times worse for them at least, and it’s unforgiveable.

Know what you don’t know

The path I walk includes spirit guides, the ability to pass on accurate messages from those who have passed to spirit, and all manner of fascinating things that I never even suspected existed in this world. My new Miracles section will gradually detail a lot of these things. As such, and as you may imagine, I find it very difficult to believe that I know everything! I certainly couldn’t make a decision about other human beings without a great deal of research, questioning, and listening before I could conclude what I felt about the subject. Because we all have to own our own reactions.

Love/hate social media?

Many people bash the news media, without even thinking that the general public seem to be able to do far worse and be far harsher than the mainstream media would dare to be in print. We the public need to own that knowledge.

I have many amazing friends on there who think in the same way I do, but there have been others that I simply couldn’t deal with, I don’t mind an opposing viewpoint, but a viciously unkind, insulting attack is not an exchange of views.

Which cycles me back to the title of this blog. When you’re so scared when someone disagrees with you that you have to go out on the attack, tearing into someone else, you have a very real problem. But isn’t it even worse that people can sit in their own homes, observing a tragedy, and do the same?

Fear is the culprit

As Elizabeth Kubler-Ross famously said: “There are only two emotions, love and fear. All positive emotions come from love, all negative emotions come from fear.” As such, we are fighting a huge wave of fear in this modern world that permeates every area of out society from politics to personal relationships, the ‘best’ football team to the ‘best’ beer. Polarisation occurs everywhere, most can handle it, some can’t.

Now what?

If I had the answer I would give it. If I had a magic wand I would use it. If I could save the children of the future I definitely would. I dream of them growing up in an inclusive world where they read the history books and can’t believe that we fought over race, politics, colour, gender, football team, and so on and on and on.

It’s horrible to feel to helpless, but at least I can do this. I can maybe reach people who feel the same. People who won’t be afraid to call out fear-based behaviour in a loving way. Willing to learn how to try to balance things out in a good way, without coming over as knowing better, thinking they’re better, or thinking others are idiots. That never solved anything. Make someone feel bad about who they are and you have lost the argument.


If you resonate with this please join the cause, if you’re already a paid up member in which case thank whichever God or all of them for you, in whichever form your beliefs manifest.

The more of us who quietly say no to bad treatment, the more of us who gently but very firmly ask people to reconsider the way they’ve just spoken to someone else, or to us, the greater a change we will create faster.


I always end these blogs ‘to your happiness’, let’s just get together and see what we can do to be a force for good, whenever and wherever possible. It’s all we have and all we can do. And we can do it. We can at least leave some elements of this world in a better shape.

To everyone’s happiness and freedom to be themselves, their race, gender, religion, colour, creed, beliefs, chocolate choices! I can’t stand dark chocolate but I don’t mind anyone else eating it, especially as it leaves more milk for me! You’ve got to see the upside in doing good!

Photo by Polina Tankilevitch on

There is room for us all. There is a place for us all. Diversity is the most exciting thing in the world. To talk to someone from another place can be to learn and experience so much. To learn from one another teaches us the beauty of this world, it shows us how unique we all are, and it will show us how much good there really is out there.

Let’s do this: For the world, for the future, for the children.

We all deserve happiness

Deb xx


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: