An Unexpected Life

If there was a biography about you, what would the title be?

This is me at a public speaking event, doing my keynote speech “The Myth Buster”.

Amongst the many things I never thought I’d do, the courage to stand up and speak to an audience was right up there on the list with ‘remain sane’.

I didn’t think I would become a medium, healer, author, spiritual mentor, and on and on and on!

Who does expect?

This is me sitting in a tree house at Warners’ Cricket St. Thomas hotel. Another place I never expected to work as a resident medium.

The thing is that most of us live unexpected lives, partly because we’re not taught to start planning our lives carefully at the age of 2. Okay I’m pushing that a bit, but you know what I mean. In order to have a planned and expected life we’d have to be aware practically from the moment we shot out of the birth canal (or was dragged out as I was), that we need to be mindful of our lives and make sure what we chose to do was in line with the person we are. How boring.

Change – eek!

Many humans have a tendency to fear change, probably because once we start making mistakes we stop trusting our decision making abilities. Turning this around though, we shouldn’t fear change because we’ve made mistakes, we should remember that they are terrible warnings about what not to do, and that we’re lucky to have gone wrong so that we know how to get things right.

I would even put marrying completely the wrong person into that category, because it taught me what the right person looked like. Would my current husband and I have made it were this not a second marriage for both of us? Truthfully I can’t be sure because life threw in us being totally different to really challenge how much we loved each other. Turns out we do, but being able to measure this man up against the last one was a big help. It also taught me that I can make much better decisions.

BIG point here, if you learn from your mistakes and start getting things right, or at least better, then you have no need to fear change.

First sight only?

Unless you have the advantage of second sight and can foretell the future, life is always going to be unexpected, that teaches you to take advantage of unexpected opportunities, deal with unexpected downturns, and also embrace life as a voyage of discovery rather than a plod from cradle to grave determinedly doing what you’d so carefully planned to do at 16. Whether it’s working or otherwise, whether you’re bored now, whether something better is out there but you can’t take advantage of it because you have a plan.

Opportunity knocks

The things I never thought I’d do have been wonderful. What’s more they’ve been things I may have been scared to try if they hadn’t appeared in my life organically.

Not having a plan allows all manner of options to appear in your life, some you take up, some you don’t, sometimes you regret that, but most of the time you realise that you’re actually exactly where you are meant to be in that moment.

Bet that wouldn’t happen if we planned too much and were then scared to be wrong. It’s not really easier to do nothing, but very tempting when you’re trying to be right instead of thinking ‘that looks like fun, let’s give it a whirl.’

To your happiness

Deb xx